Thursday, January 17, 2013

What we came up with...

Here is what we came up with for a potential birth parent to read.






Hi. We are Sully and Melissa Cook.  Let me start by saying, we have thought about this special part of the process for a while.  We would like to think that we know the perfect words to say in our letter to you. The truth is, we don’t.   We do know, that above all else, we will deeply love any child who comes into our care.  We will pray for them everyday and do our best to create a safe and loving place for the child.  We would also like to encourage you even in the smallest way. We have been praying for you since the day we decided to welcome a child in our home.

So now we would like to give you a little information about how we met, what our life is like and why we are on this journey where your path and ours have now crossed.

Sullivan and I met while I was working as a Children’s Minister at a church in Pigeon Forge, TN .  I first met Sullivan’s dad, Wayne at a ministry luncheon since Wayne is a Children’s Minister as well.  After meeting, Wayne brought his family to church, which included his son, Sully. His father then proceeded to encourage Sully to ask me for a date.  It didn’t take too much!  Sullivan and I connected on our very first date.  We were together for about two years before we were married in Franklin, TN.  Sullivan and I are very different but it works really well. We balance each other out. We have a different set of gifts and I have loved learning how God uses us both in our marriage and in our community.  He is more reserved and I am a goofball. He is steady where I am flighty. We have a great respect for each other’s personalities.

Our life is really a blessing.  We have a great church that we work for and a very close group of friends. So many of our close friends have adopted and we have been able to see first hand how special these kids are.  While we do not have immediate family close by, our church has become this for us.  We are very involved and a lot of our free time is spent with families from our small group.  Even though, we are not geographically close to our family, we are close relationally. Sully and I talk weekly to our parents and they are praying for this journey as well.  

We are not perfect and our life is not perfect but God’s presence in our life has given us perfect peace. We have walked through some hard things and God has been ever-present.

We believe God has also put us on the path of adoption since the early days of our relationship and has kept in the front of our minds.  Unlike most people on this journey, we did not start because of infertility.  God very clearly told us to adopt so we passively began the process. A few months after, I found out I have a condition that makes conceiving very difficult and most women are successful with fertility treatment. Upon receiving this diagnosis, we felt that this was God pushing even more towards adoption. Sully and I have not gone through fertility treatment and do not plan to at this time. We believe that God has called us to build our family through adoption at the moment.

When thinking about the future of our relationship, we would like to have a level of openness with you. We plan on telling our son or daughter often about their birthparents and the special adoption plan that was made for them. It is our hope that our child will recognize that God can choose to build families in so many ways.  We would love to send pictures back and forth on a regular basis.  We think it would be  special  for the child to know if  they maybe  have the same eyes or smile as their birth-mother. 
We hope that you spend some time learning more about us in our profile. We really are a fun couple!

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